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Dating: Confessions of a Single Mom

Dating SUCKS!!  Yup, I said it and said it loud.  As a women, I want to believe that I won’t always be a single Mom.  I would like to meet someone that I can enjoy things that aren’t listening to stories about Fortnite and Lego.  Don’t get me wrong, I love my son unconditionally but a little adult conversation once in a while is appreciated.

Maybe I am just too old fashion, or expect too much, but I still believe that love can exist and chivalry is not dead.  Although I take pride in being an independent strong women,  a girl likes to be made to  feel special once in a while.  And sometimes when I hang out with my married friends and they are disagreeing or bickering, I kind of revel in fact that I don’t have those issues being single.  But more often than not, by no fault of theirs, I end up feeling like a 3rd wheel.

I would personally prefer to find someone via a friend or acquaintance.  Someone who can sort of give them the thumbs up.  Kind of like prescreening them for me.  And I know that doesn’t always mean it’s going to work but a little sort of reassurance they aren’t a total creep goes a long way, if you know what I mean.

But let’s be honest, finding that special someone isn’t easy or fun.  Dating sites not only are daunting, but a total crap shoot.  I want to believe that there are some good ones still out there, but knowing my luck, I will find the ax murderer among the group or get totally cat fished.  And scrolling through profile after profile just seems a little cold.  Maybe it’s just me, but trying to make a choice of a potential mate needs a little more personal interaction, not just based on a profile pic.  They could look good in their photo but turn out to be a total jerk and the opposite could be true as well.  I may judge a book by it’s cover and miss out on a truly sweet and genuine guy.

And again maybe I am just way too old school, but cheesy pick up lines and sexual innuendo’s right out of the gate didn’t work for me in the past and they won’t work for me now.  Why do men feel like it’s appropriate or at all what women want to see/hear?  Does hiding behind a screen give them more inclination to push the envelope? And if that is just their general nature, it’s not the type of man I want to meet in the first place.

And if you’re lucky enough to find someone that you want to start dating, a whole new can of worms gets opened.  At my age, there is a good chance that a potential suitor will have his own children and some sort of custody arrangement.  Anyone who knows me, knows that my son will always be my first priority and I would expect nothing less from the other person.  So scheduling time together can become a logistical nightmare.

Between my schedule, their schedule and life in between, time for a date can often be hard to find.  I guess it if it’s something worth exploring, time will be found.  We will make it work.

And I have never been a good dater.  That uncertainty, that nervous sick to my stomach feeling before meeting someone for the first time and then that non-stop babbling like an idiot I do because I am overcome with nerves.  It’s a complete gong show.  I always leave feeling defeated and pretty uncertain that 2nd date will come.

But in the end, I still believe that some day my prince will come.  Not sure when and not sure how, but a girl has to have something to believe in.  I will keep trying and hoping but will definitely not like the process.  So fingers crossed for me friends.  But like I said from the beginning, dating sucks!

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Only 208 pennies left

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In a matter of days, my son will be turning 10.  Ten….how is that even possible?  I swear it was only yesterday he was swaddled up in my arms a mere few minutes old.  It was instant love.  A love that I never knew I could have for someone.  Yet, when I look at him now, I can’t even remember life before him.  So what do 208 pennies have to do with all of this?

Recently I came across an article by Eryn Lynum, called How 936 Pennies Will Forever Change How You Parent.   The story is about how at her son’s dedication, they were given a jar with 928 pennies.  Each copper penny represented 1 week of his life until he would turn 18.  It was a story about spending your weeks/pennies wisely.  And this story resonated with me and when I went it did the math, it rocked me to my core.

My son turning 10 means that I only have 8 short years left until he’s officially considered an adult.  He’s already more than halfway there.  But considering the fact that I share custody of him with his father, that means I only get half as many weeks to enjoy with him.  So 8 years is 416 weeks, and for me that means on 208 weeks left where he will be with me.  208 weeks!   It really puts things into perspective of how little time we have in this life and how important it is to spend it wisely.

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I once wrote about how I had been criticized for loving my son too much and I will never, ever apologize for that.  The first few years of his life, I was deep into a tumultuous divorce fight with his father and feel like I lost of lot of that time being upset and worried about what was going to happen next.  So I will not be made to feel guilty about enjoying every moment…every one of the pennies I have left.

We will enjoy cuddles and kisses, laughter, adventures and all kinds of fun.  We will go exploring, we will learn new things and enjoy every single penny’s worth.   I’ve already used up 260 of the pennies that I have been given in a blink of an eye.  It’s bad enough I only get half the pennies that most parent’s get with their children, I don’t want to look back at my son’s childhood and feel like we’ve missed out on anything.  I want us to live life to the fullest.

How will you spend your pennies?

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Midwives – Supporting Pay Equity

Most people that know me, know that I am not one to talk a lot about my personal and political beliefs on social media.  I believe what I believe and am very rarely swayed from that.  However, being not only a woman, but a single parent doing it on her own, this is a campaign that I support fully and believe we should all know more about.  And that is supporting pay equity for midwives.
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I did not use a midwife personally, but that doesn’t mean I don’t support what they do and support the right for them to have pay equity.
Pay equity for midwives is #overdue. In Ontario, women on average earn only 71 cents on the male dollar. This gap is more pronounced for women and trans people, especially those who are Indigenous, racialized, elderly, newcomers, or those who have a disability.
 
The pay equity gap for Ontario’s most female-dominated profession, midwifery, is at least 48%. How is this even possible?  Male or female, whoever is doing the job should be treated equally. 
 
Midwives are awaiting a decision from the Human Rights Tribunal in response to their application for pay free from gender discrimination. They believe a decision is imminent – likely later this month.
 
They need your support. You can help support this campaign by ordering a t-shirt from their campaign site (www.midwivesoverdue.com) and take a picture to share on social media channels. Please use the slogan: Pay equity is #overdue!
 
Once the decision is out, you can also join midwives for a rally at Queen’s Park or across the province on social media with the hashtag #OVERDUE.
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I believe that the concept of equal pay for equal work is something we should all support especially when the variance is so drastically different.  Your support is appreciated.  Thank you!
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Fortnite – What Parents Need to Know

If your kids are anything like mine, they are current obsessed with the online game Fortnite.  I will be honest, aside from what my son talks about (non-stop) the game, I don’t really know much about it.

Here is a guest post from Matt Tatham who is the manager of content insights and data analyst at Experian Consumer Services, a division of Experian, the nation’s largest credit bureau. Matt talks about some of the underlying dangers kids are putting themselves and parents at risk while playing. It was very eye opening for me.

While You’re Playing Fortnite, Fraudsters Are Looking to Play You

Have you played Fortnite yet? If you haven’t, you probably know someone who has as the game’s popularity has exploded in recent months, attracting celebrities, professional athletes, and gamers of all ages. Unfortunately, Fortnite’s mass appeal is attracting hackers and scammers too. Players and parents need to pay attention in order reduce the risk of identity theft and fraud.

Part of the game’s attraction is that it’s free and available to players across multiple video game consoles, PCs, and mobile phones. The Hunger Games-like world of Fortnite allows players to showcase their creativity while playing. However, scammers are also getting creative.

Fortnite creator Epic Games recently warned about the most common Fornite scam on its Twitter account for players: “Say NO to scams! Beware of scam sites offering free or discounted V-Bucks.”

How Big Is Fortnite?

Fortnite: Battle Royale has more than 45 million players worldwide as of January, according to Epic Games. Those numbers are sure to have grown since the game’s popularity has jumped: A recent live-streamed game set a new Twitch record for individual online streams, with over 600,000 people watching. The game featured rappers Drake and Travis Scott, Pittsburgh Steelers wide receiver JuJu Smith-Schuster, and one of the game’s popular players, Tyler “Ninja” Blevins.

Professional athletes are using the popular Fortnite dances in their own game celebrations and Boston Red Sox pitcher David Price missed a start because he had carpal tunnel syndrome from playing too much Fortnite.

SuperData, a research firm that specializes in video games, estimates Fortnite generated nearly $296 million in April and has the possibility of generating $3.5 billion in annual revenue.

A Common Fortnite Scam: YouTube Free V-Bucks

That kind of money and the addictive nature of the game has drawn criminal elements to the Fortnite universe. New players mean new opportunities for fraudsters who promise something free to help elevate your game. In Fortnite there are V-bucks, the virtual money that players can use to buy new gear.

While recently playing the game with my son and wanting to help advance “our Battle Pass” standing, I did a search for “free V-bucks.” I found results promising we would win huge amounts of Fornite V-bucks. My son suggested I check out those third-party videos on YouTube and what came back were more than 4.6 million various videos promising players to get free V-bucks by following their instructions or tips.

Most send you to a website where you share an obscure code from your game account; in some cases, that allows scammers to gain access to your payment information either on your smartphone or game console. The third-party sites also have plenty of ads (which can lead you to download malware on your computer) or follow up with an email, which is really a phishing attempt or to download their app that can have spyware.

I know because I watched plenty of the videos hoping to find one I thought was legitimate but was too nervous to click on anything at that point. Ironically, one video demo of how to get free V-bucks has the username shown as “VIRUSS999.” While that username may be an easy sign of a fake account, other ways to spot a scam video are to look at the number of likes and dislikes a video has received, and whether or not the poster is verified by YouTube with a check symbol next to their name.

Android Fornite App Scam

Another scam that has been affecting Fortnite players are fake apps for in the Google Play store. The game isn’t available on Android devices yet, though a launch is planned by the end of Summer 2018. Security researchers at Zscaler found a bunch of Android apps posing as the official Fortnite app for Android.

When players download the fake version of the game on their phones they ended up downloading spyware and adware that ends up being a real-life cyberattack. Many of these fake apps ask users to rate and review it with pre-written comments that make it look like the app is legitimate. In one case, Zscaler found an app that had over 5,000 downloads with more than 4,000 five-star reviews.

You should make sure to check your iOS and Android privacy settings to see if you’re allowing third-party app downloads from untrusted sites. If you do, you may want to change that setting or delete those apps. You should only get apps from the official Apple and Android stores.

Don’t Get Scammed or Hacked While Playing Video Games

You need to understand that even while playing games, sharing too much information online can allow scammers to gain access to your stored credit card number and perhaps even steal your identity. Here are some video game tips to help you avoid scams:

  1. Don’t Overshare Information

Avoid sharing details such as your real name, address or your account password as scammers will try to become friends with anyone in order to steal information. Only follow friends or people you know and don’t accept the random stranger friend request.

  1. Don’t Use Your Game Password on Other Sites

Using a different password for a game site limits the risk if the site is compromised at any time. Make sure sites asking for your game password are legitimate either through a verification check mark on YouTube or has an official affiliation with the game website and developer.

  1. Use Two-Factor Authentication

You’re able to add this to most video games and consoles now and it gives you an added layer of security. Two-factor authentication requires you to provide a second piece of proof in order to verify your identity, usually a code sent to your mobile device or email. While it takes a little extra time to set up and log in, enabling the feature in the device or on the game console is worth it.

  1. Don’t Let Friends or Family Share Your Account

Password sharing or account sharing is a surefire way to increase the odds of having your account hacked, have your information stolen, or lose money. As tempting or peer-pressure packed as it may be, don’t give in.

  1. Use a Throwaway Credit Card

Use a virtual credit card or one that is not your everyday card tied to your bank account. This will help you minimize your risk if your credit or debit card number is part of a data breach.

  1. Don’t Talk to Strangers

As old-school as it sounds, if some random person asks for details such as name, birthdate, Social Security number, or even about hobbies and interests through a game or text, don’t respond. If they ask for money, don’t give it to them no matter the reason.

If other players start harassing you or ask for money you should report that player to the Epic Games player support page.

What to Do If You Think Your Identity Was Stolen

If you think you or someone in your family have become a victim of identity theft you should report it to the support page for the game and to the game system so they are aware.

If any of your information is compromised, change your password immediately and consider getting a new credit or debit card. You’ll want to keep an eye on accounts and even your credit report (you can check your Experian credit report for free) to make sure no fraudulent charges or new accounts show up.

For more information on staying protected, visit the Experian blog.

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Summer fun with Bubble Pong

Disclaimer: Although items in this post were provided to us, all comments, opinions and photos are strictly mine.

As a I look my slightly sunburned skin, I smile and remember all the fun we had on our first official long weekend of the summer.  The weekend was filled with visiting family, swimming with friends, movies in the park and lots and lots of bubbles.  Yes, bubbles.

We recently received Bubble Pong by Gazillion to test out.  It is a 2 player ping pong ball game and bubble machine all in one.  I love 2 player games as my son and I can play them together, just the 2 of us.  Often other games require more than just the 2 of us and harder to enjoy.

Bubbles pong box

The object of the game is to bounce the balls into your opponent’s side and when you do, bubbles come out at them.  It has 3 different modes – beginner, intermediate and advanced.  And let me tell you, the advance mode took some skill so kids of all ages can enjoy this.  And when you are done playing the game or just want to enjoy bubbles, you press a button and it becomes a bubble machine.

My son is a bit older so I wasn’t quite sure what he would think of it but he loved playing with it.  He even begged me to let him take it to a friend’s house over the weekend so that they could play with it there.

Bubbles game

It’s fairly compact so it is easy to take with you.  The only downfall is that if you have the bubble liquid in the machine and want to take it somewhere you do risk spilling some of the liquid out.  But realistically you could just put it in a plastic bag and it will be fine.  It does take 8 AA batteries but they seem to last quite a long time in my opinion and the bubble liquid surprisingly last a long time too.

Bubbles machine

With summer just starting I am looking forward to spending a lot of time outside playing Bubble Pong with my son and watching him and his friends enjoy the bubble machine.  You can get your own Bubble Pong in Canada at Walmart, and ToysRUs.

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Tully – preview and a giveaway

No one can deny that being a Mom isn’t easy.  We’ve all had our moments of complete exhaustion where all we wanted to do was throw our hands up in the air and admit defeat.  Rarely do you see a real portrayal of the ups and downs of being a Mom until Tully.

Tully, is the  new comedy from Academy Award®-nominated director Jason Reitman (“Up in the Air”) and Academy Award®-winning screenwriter Diablo Cody (“Juno”). Marlo (Academy Award® winner Charlize Theron), a mother of three including a newborn, is gifted a night nanny by her brother (Mark Duplass).   Hesitant to the extravagance at first, Marlo comes to form a unique bond with the thoughtful, surprising, and sometimes challenging young nanny named Tully (Mackenzie Davis).

Universal Pictures is releasing Tully on May 4th, perfect timing with Mother’s Day just around the corner.  Why not grab a few of your best Mom friends and head to your local theater and see Tully?  A great Mom’s Night Out.    Want to win passes for you and a friend?  I have 5 ROE (run of engagement passes) passes to TULLY. Each pass is valid for 2 tickets to screenings of TULLY at any Cineplex location that it is playing.

Head over to my Instagram to enter to win!  Contest ends May 3rd at noon EST, so hurry over to enter!

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Take Three – Tips from Three Busy Moms

Today, I am pleased to have Trish Bethell as a guest writer with tips from 3 of the speakers (and Moms) that will be speaking at the upcoming BabyTime Show in Toronto from April 27-April 29th.

Three popular moms share their top tips on how you can tackle three parent-related topics

There’s an old saying: If you want something done, ask a busy person to do it. These super successful, career balancing, busy moms are all at different stages of parenthood, have expertise in different areas, and have tips all parents can benefit from. From feelings of being overwhelmed and calendar combustion to nursery décor and meal prep, these three moms have strategies to help the busiest of parents create more calm in their lives.

Want to delve deeper into each topic? Join them from April 27-April 29 at the BabyTime Show (www.babytimeshows.ca) where they will have a full presentation on their selected topic.

Lisa Canning, mom of six (soon to be seven) children under the age of 8, is an interior design expert, life-balance coach, and an advocate for good mental health. Want to know how this busy mom of soon to be seven stays sane in a house full of children and is still able to run a successful business? Here are Lisa’s top tips to live a balanced life:

  1. Motherhood can be an overwhelming gig at times, especially when you throw in juggling the demands of work, household chores, trying to stay healthy and go on an occasional date night! My best tip for juggling everything is to really think about your priorities. What comes first for you: your marriage/kids, work, health, personal time, etc.? Write a list and order everything based on what is most important to you. Then ensure your calendar actually reflects these priorities.
  2. Another way to tackle your calendar and avoid becoming overwhelmed is to have some hard boundaries to ensure your priorities stay in the right order. For example, if you want to make sure your family takes precedence over your work, ensure you have a hard stop time for when you do work, which means you schedule appointments around this hard stop time, you put your phone away at this hard stop time, etc. Setting boundaries with your time is a great way to ensure your top priorities remain your top priorities.
  3. Schedule time for yourself like you would any other priority in your life; even if it is just 30-minutes of quiet reading, schedule it and stick to it like you would a child’s soccer practice, or a conference call for work. As moms, we GIVE, GIVE, GIVE! So we have to ensure we refill our tanks regularly.

Jaclyn Colville is mother to one 6-month-old darling little girl, an interior stylist, and a frequent TV guest. Décor and design can be completely overwhelming to some, yet when that bundle of joy arrives, most parents want to have the perfect space for them to curl up in. Here are her top tips for smart design in an infant or toddler room:

  1. Design with longevity in mind, meaning do not design for the right now stage. Design thinking about the next 5 (or more) years to save money and your time. For example, while you might want to have a chair in your child’s room for breastfeeding, make sure it’s a sturdy one that your little one will be able to curl up in to read stories with you when they’re a toddler. Investing in a convertible crib is a great idea – it means that one purchase now will grow with your child to become a toddler bed, and a full size bed later.
  2. Choose a calm, neutral colour, but it does not have to a traditional baby colour. Think calm grey or soft taupe for a nursery. You can use accent pieces to add in soft or vibrant pinks or blues (or any colour!) to update the space as your child grow. Going with a calm colour allows years of growth before you have to re-paint.
  3. Make the room welcoming! While you’re going to spend lots of time in there, this is your child’s sanctuary, a space to call their own. Don’t have precious heirlooms in there – or at least keep them out of reach! Be sure the contents are durable, safe, and fun. No sharp corners, lots of places for storage, nothing fussy. You want your child’s space to be a place they love, and where they feel your love surrounding them.

Taylor Kaye is a popular host on CHUM FM, a red carpet reporter, host of Meal-Prep-Mondays, and mom of three girls. Meal prep and making lunches is a constant complaint with moms new and seasoned! Frazzled about the dinnertime madness? Not sure how to mix up the lunch bag? This mom has got it down to a science and it doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are her top meal and meal preparation tips:

  1. Make family meals a priority. Meal-time is a great time to connect with each other, share stories from everyone’s day, make plans, solve issues, and cement the bond of family. Meal prep time can serve the same purpose – giving you time to work together to create a meal you’ll all enjoy.
  2. Choose foods that are versatile. As a family of five, we don’t always like the same things, or like it the same way. When I choose foods, I’ll pick products that can be served different ways. For example, if I make a lunch platter of different meats and veggies, I’ll include pitas, buns, and crackers and allow everyone to assemble their plates and “sandwiches” so everyone gets what they like, how they like it. Another versatile option: granola bars. They can be eaten whole, crumbled on yogurt, or broken up into a cereal and fruit bowl.
  3. Teach your kids to cook. Give the kids specific jobs to help, like grating cheese, mixing ingredients, laying out crackers – things that they can do with minimal supervision. A word of caution here: they may not do it exactly the way you would, but this is about teaching them and getting help, even when it feels like it would be easier to do it all yourself! If you invest a bit of time every meal to teaching them, before you know it, they’ll be efficient helpers well on their way to being cooks. And when they can make their own meals, you’ve done a great job of make independent adults.

To hear more tips from these super busy moms, come to their presentations at The Babytime Show, from Friday, April 27 to Sunday, April at The International Centre, Hall 1. Visit www.babytimeshows.ca  for full show details, presentation times and see all the show has to offer.

We also have a giveaway for a basket of amazing body care products from Makessence, who will also be one of the Vendors at The BabyTime Show.  This contest is open to Canadian residents only and ends Friday, April 27th at noon.

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Summer Ready with BuyBuy Baby – and a Giveaway

Oh the weather outside is frightful and the fire is so delightful……and it’s mid-April!  Mother Nature has definitely played a number on our spring this year.  Maybe we will skip spring this year and head right into summer?  That wouldn’t be so bad, would it?  Regardless if we get spring or go right into summer, all I know is that I just want to be rid of the winter weather and be able to get outdoors and enjoy warm sunny weather.

Maybe going and doing a little summer shopping will get Mother Nature back into the spring/summer mood?  I’ve already been able to get myself a few things for the upcoming warm weather but getting a bit impatient waiting to wear/use them.  I recently made a trip to BuyBuy Baby in Whitby and they have got everything out to get the kids ready for spending long days outside in the sunshine.

I remember my son playing for hours with anything water related, his water table, bubbles  and water guns.  Even still he loves water toys.  BuyBuy Baby has a huge assortment for all ages.

summer water table

summer pools

If you child is anything like mine and has pretty much grown out of everything that fit them last year, your going to new bathing suits, rash guards, hats.  There are so many cute styles and options.  I wish there had been more like these when my guy was smaller.

And don’t forget to protect their eyes with sunglasses and stock up on your sunscreen.  If you have any leftover from last year, check for an expiration date.  It often needs to be replaced year after year.  The last thing you want is them getting a sunburn.

summer sunglasses

summer sunscreen

And if by any chance they don’t have what you are looking for in store, but know that you happened to see it online prior to your visit or it just happens to be out of stock, be sure to check with a BuyBuy Baby associate and they can get the item ordered for you and delivered directly to your home so you don’t have to make another trip back to the store.  This is definitely something I appreciate.  I understand that stores sell out of things, and you can`t always guarantee they will be in stock,  but having the convenience of having those items ordered for me and sent to my home is really a time saver for me.

To make your shopping time even easier, BuyBuy Baby has quite a line of toys and outdoor play items designed for older children like my son, that you may not be able to find in store but are available online and again with the help of a store associate, they can be ordered while you are in store and shipped directly to your home.  It’s like one stop shopping for your kids.

How would you like to start your summer shopping off at BuyBuy Baby with a $100 gift card?  Wouldn’t that help rid the winter weather blues?  Be sure to enter below!  Contest is open to residents of Canada and ends Thursday, April 26th at midnight EST.

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46 Things About Life

This year I hit that pivotal point in my 40’s.. Turning 46 I can no longer say I am in my early 40’s, I am now pushing that 50 mark.  I wouldn’t say I am even remotely wise for my years but I have learned a lot of things along the way.  A lot of these will be cliches but here is what I know to be true. (These are in no particular order, just how they came to me and some are more serious than others.)

  1. If you can’t love yourself, you’re no good to anyone else.  Love yourself first and then share that love.
  2. Always trust your gut instinct, it will almost never steer you wrong.
  3. A real friend will be there when you need them no matter what.  Not when it is convenient for them.
  4. Friendships may come and go, but those worth having will stick around.
  5. The road map of your life will go through many, many unforeseen revisions.  You can’t rely on one single path.
  6. I am a firm believer that when your time is up, it is up.  I am not sure if there is some divine plan for us or what, but you can’t change it.
  7. Do not let the bad things define you.
  8. Only you can decide what is best for you, no one else.
  9. Your tastes and preferences will look vastly different when you look back 20 years, 10 years, even 5 years.
  10. Make a bucket list.  Even if you don’t achieve them all, it gives you something to work for.
  11. As much as I still struggle with getting to the gym,  I have learned to respect how much exercise does a body good in so many ways.
  12. Be the friend you want all your friends to be to you.
  13. No matter how good of a liar you think you are, someone will always get hurt in the end.  Be honest.
  14. If I catch you lying to me, I will probably never trust you again.  I may forgive, but I will never forget.
  15. Never, ever go to bed angry.  You never know what the morning could bring.
  16. Even the smallest gesture of love/friendship can make a person’s day.
  17. Always recognize when you need to say “I’m sorry”.  You may not have meant to do it, but acknowledge your were wrong.
  18. You need to accept that sometimes “Sorry” will not be enough.
  19. Some people will deserve a second chance and some won’t.  And some will end up not deserving that second chance.
  20. I can never have too many hugs.
  21. I knew I always wanted to be a Mom.  It’s is everything and nothing I thought I would be like.  All in a good way.
  22. The love I have for my child is stronger than any love I have ever known or will ever know.
  23. I may not be the perfect Mom, but I will always try to  be the best that I can be.
  24. I have probably learned more about life in the past 10 years with my son than I did in all the years prior to his birth.
  25. Try to find the positive in most situations.  I may not always find it but at least I tried.
  26. You only get one life. Make the best of the one you are given.
  27. Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.  Be Kind.  Always.  – My favorite quote ever.
  28. Even at my age, it is always okay to act like a kid again in appropriate situations.
  29. Every once in a while, you will need a day to reset yourself.  For me, that means staying in my pjs, binge watching Netflix and laying on the couch all day.
  30. Try new things. Step out of your comfort zone every once in a while.  You might just surprise yourself.
  31. Everyone is different but everyone is the same. Embrace your differences, enjoy your similarities.
  32. Burpees are a pure form of torture. They may be good for you, but I don’t know a single person who actually likes them.
  33. Coffee is the nectar of the Gods.  Although I was into my 20’s before I discovered it’s goodness.
  34. Take lots and lots of pictures.  You can’t relive those special moments but pictures can help.
  35. But on the contrary of that, be sure to enjoy the moments and not just focus on getting that perfect picture.  Once they have past, you can’t get them back.
  36. I have a great respect for people who grow things.  I don’t have a green thumb at all and wish I did.
  37. As much as I am a planner, sometime throwing the plans out the window and just rolling with it makes for a much better adventure.
  38. Unplug from the world for a day/couple of days when you can.  It’s very liberating.  I need to do it more often.
  39. Never underestimate the power of a good book.  Reading can be a great way to escape the madness in the world sometimes.
  40. Everyone has their own religion/beliefs. I won’t force my beliefs on to you, do not impose yours on me.
  41. I probably will never, ever understand Minecraft. (As much as my son tries to teach me.)
  42. I’ve tried to adopt the mantra “Never Miss a Monday”. Not only for my fitness goals but other things.  It just sets the week up for success.
  43. I still can not figure out how socks constantly go missing from my dryer.  And somehow laundry piles mysteriously regenerate.
  44. Try and catch a sunrise every once in a while (on purpose).  It can be the perfect way to start a day.
  45. Please and thank you are always appreciated.
  46. Laugh hard, laugh long, laugh often.

I have to say coming up with 46 things was much harder than I had anticipated.  Enjoy!

Parenting/Life

Has Anyone Seen My Motivation?

I started off the beginning of the year with so much excitement and motivation for 2018, myself and my blog.  And here we are only into March and I have somehow lost my motivation somewhere along the way.  Can’t be sure where I left it,  but I am sure I need to find it and fast!  Why can’t motivation have a tracking system similar to the “Find iPhone” app that I have?

In regards to my fitness and weight loss, I haven’t been doing too badly.  Very slowly but surely pounds are coming off and I am getting to the gym on a regular basis and I am definitely much more careful about what I am eating.  But even with that, I can see myself starting to falter.  I have done so well so far, I don’t want to take any steps backwards with it.

With everything else, the motivation is terrible.  I look at my blog and see how few posts I have done this year.  I have quite a few that need to be done and I know it, but finding it in myself to actually sit down and type something seems to be gone.  I have so many hopes and dreams for it and I know that sitting doing nothing isn’t going to make things happen for me but still things remain undone.

The are projects and things that I want to do around the house and with my son and yet I still find myself binge watching Netflix instead of actually getting things done.  It’s really starting to get to me and I need to find a way to get myself out of this situation I have found myself in.

Perhaps it is the weather and this never ending winter that is getting me down.  Perhaps it’s other things that are going on behind the scenes in my life.  Perhaps I just need a good swift kick in the pants to get this laziness out of me.

Writing this down and making myself accountable to you publicly is hopefully the first step.  I have admitted that I need to get off the couch and push myself to achieve the things that I want for myself and my blog.  April is my birthday month so I am going to make it THE month for me.  By then I want to be back on full track and making things happen.

In the meantime, if you have seen my motivation, can you please return it to me?